The Daily Aztec

Issue date: 10/8/07 Section: Dating & Romance

Media Credit: Andrew Mantilla / Staff Photographer Males and females often confuse dating signals. When a guy asks a girl to go on a casual date with him, she may perceive it as a friendly outing when in fact the guy is interested in her. Females need to be honest about how they are feeling.

A man and a woman go to the movies together. He thought it was an obvious date. She could not have been more shocked when he said, "Two, please."

Sound familiar? Of course it does. Often, it seems like men are saying one thing and women are hearing another. So to clear up the confusion, here's a dictionary of what guys really mean during the dating process.

The guy who sits next to you in class always asks about how your weekend went. Except today he adds, "Hey, do you wanna go to Yogurt Express tonight?"

He thinks: "I'm asking you out."

She thinks: "He must like yogurt as much as I do."

Ladies, I'm sorry to burst your bubble. Coffee's a date. Yogurt Express is a date. Lunch is a (bad) date. Guys really don't ask girls to "hang out." It's that simple.

Basically, this is the low-pressure way to ask you out. He's not sure if you like him but wants to find out. He's gauging your interest in him (even though you're gauging your interest in a bowl of "Wow Cow brownie").

Basically, this is the dating equivalent of the quarterback sneak. It's not going to get him very far, but he wants to move things along a little bit and is hoping a small, low-pressure date like coffee might do the trick.

Things went so well at Yogurt Express that you're discussing the second date in front of your car. He says, "Do you want to come inside so I can show you that new book?"

He thinks: "It's go time."

She thinks: "I really do want to see a book of Ansel Adams' photos."

Again, it's much more low-pressure than "Nice dress, wanna take it off?" The reality is that the book is just a ploy. If a woman accepts the invite in, she shouldn't be surprised when he's more forward inside.

After a couple of dates, he calls to say, "Can I make you dinner tonight?"

He thinks: "If she comes over, I'm gonna score."

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